You spend years dealing with your mother being a controlling manipulative jealous possessive b**** that literally sabotages every attempt at a relationship you ever have. You chalk it up to her abnory early widow status and not wanting to be alone. You reach your limit and call her out on it, wanting to know why she does it. She explains that all those years she spent trying to brainwash you into believing that only she will ever love you enough and to not waste your time or effort on dating and relationships was trying to do you a favor because at the end of the day when it comes down to crunch time, you will fail any woman you are with. That she has been trying to spare you the pain of rejection and failure because you do not have what it takes between your legs to satisfy and keep a woman. You have your own mother looking you in the eye and making you confront the avoided knowledge that you are woefully unequipped to please a woman and that all those years of her behavior were trying to spare you that hurt. And you realize she is telling you the truth and you crash mentally and emotionally. The relationship with her changed almost overnight, she became the loving nurturing mother of anyone’s dreams, amd without it seeming controlling and manipulative any more, without it being domineering and requiring submission, she helped me wrap up all the logistical details of a pointless depressing solitary life and had me move back home to live with her. Absent the obvious missing physical aspect of a real relationship, I am far happier than I have ever been and we have gone from a love hate relationship to a truly loving one.