The Three Reasons Why P****** Can Help Create Harmony in Your Relationship
It’s the new honesty and open communication
Matilda Swinney
Matilda Swinney
Mar 17 · 4 min read
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Forget daily talks about your emotions, or a promise to always be honest with each other, there’s one thing you can do in a long-term relationship that will change everything.
It’s not remembering to put the toilet seat down or doing the laundry now and again. It’s not even making your loved one a cup of coffee in the morning or clearing out the garage every few years.
No. It’s throwing a d**** over to them, watching them strap up, before getting on all fours while they joyfully thrust away. Feel free to add a delighted yell, whoop or war cry during your partner’s thrusting.
P******. The ultimate, empowering, and deeply bonding activity for all long-term couples.
I didn’t know what p****** was a few months ago. But now, the truth is, I’m hooked. I’m hooked on the sheer fact I never realised it was a possibility.
For some reason, I never dreamed up the idea of a woman strapping a d**** on and having a*** s** with a man. Amongst all the s***** positions and fetishes people have raised over the years, my eager mind never pictured p******, least of all gave it a name.
Fun fact: “P****** is a term that US s** advice columnist Dan Savage and his readers coined in 2001 to describe a woman anally penetrating a man with a strap-on d****.”
So, why is it such a joyful and important part of a relationship? Here’s my theory on why p****** is the missing link to any successful long-term romantic relationship.
S***** switching changes your perspective.
“Online s**-toy retailer Lovehoney reported (p******) is a s** move on the rise among heterosexual couples in the UK, with sales of strap-ons up by nearly 200 per cent in the last year.”
By changing roles in the bedroom, you change your perspective in daily life. You’ll understand what it feels like to be the receiver in s**. It takes trust and openness. There are different attributes needed depending on whether you’re receiving or giving. The best way to understand this is to do it (hello p******).
And by switching roles, your partner will understand what it means to be the giver, the thruster, the dominant one. When roles change in s**, your perspective changes in every other aspect of your life. It’s easier to understand your partner’s point of view. It allows you to open your mind and consider different sides of a situation, whether you’re talking about household jobs, parenting or work-related stress. You may find yourselves agreeing more often.
It restores balance and deepens your bond.
In society, men still rule. It’s not cool, but it’s true. So, by switching it up in the bedroom power can be restored to the woman. P****** puts them in the driving seat. They get to be in control, instead of feeling vulnerable or submissive.
Meanwhile, you get to take a back seat and give up all responsibilities or power. You can relinquish any role or pressure, and truly relax.
It’s refreshing to find yourself in a totally different situation. And seeing your partner in a whole new light can increase respect and trust in your relationship, no matter how long you’ve been together.
Ian Kerner, PhD, s** therapist and author, explains, “novelty stimulates dopamine transmission, a neurotransmitter that plays a big role in s***** excitement and arousal. So if your s** life is getting a little familiar, new s** moves — p****** being included in that — is a way to get the dopamine flowing.”
“High levels of dopamine and a related hormone, norepinephrine, are released during attraction.” So, it’s a good guess to say increasing the flow of dopamine will help to increase feelings of love and attraction in your relationship.
The power dynamic is experimented with.
One of the most popular appeals of p****** is the switch of power. According to Ian Kerner, PhD, “the psychological pleasures of p****** rival (and possibly transcend) the physical pleasures. The switching and subversion of gender roles, the playing with power, and the novelty of a woman wearing a p**** can all be a massive turn on for a man.”
It’s fun to do something different, to change everything and experience a new dynamic in a relationship. It keeps both parties open to new ideas and changes stale habits. It’s all too easy to stick to a tried and tested routine in the bedroom with the same positions and roles.
By introducing p****** into your s** life together, you open up your bedroom to a whole host of different possibilities. Perspective and power are experimented with, trust is heightened and balance is restored. You see each other in a new way and feel excited by the novelty of that.
Takeaway
So, if you fancy welcoming p****** into your s** life, it’s time to start talking. Bring up the discussion during a quiet evening together when you can fully focus on each other. Speak freely and listen fully. There’s every chance your partner is thinking the same thing. Or if they’ve never heard of it, they could be excited to learn.
It’s wonderful to embrace novel experiences as a couple. Together you can deepen your romantic bond, understand each other more intimately and increase the trust between you. So, give p****** a chance, and enjoy the physical and emotional pleasures which come with it.
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Me: so after p******, the men will be Gay as well and won’t need to settle with f****** women while there are lots of Gay men to f*** them, instead – why get married at all – 3 somes rule?
Just who is in the middle?