To: I am trying to heal a very shattered life. My own. I don’t know how.
Me: The easiest way is often the hardest, I know, I’ve been there.
First off, dress in ways that attract attention – bright clothing and shoes, perfume and light makeup – then go somewhere where nobody knows you and you are unlikely to meet anyone from your present life – then pretend to be how you want to be, the life you want for yourself and overcome your insecurities by doing everything you want in your new life – new people will see you as you pretend to be and they will judge you accordingly, because they don’t know any better and never tell them about the “old” you AND if you keep going out and pretending to be this new person, you will eventually find you are no longer the old person, but this new person who you want to be most in life.
You don’t have to offer s** and you can keep those parts of yourself that you don’t want to share, your secret.
I am on change number 10 currently and this is my best personality yet and the more you practice pretending, the easier it becomes to do, because basically, the people who pretend most, are the people who are the movers and shakers and all it takes is a little pretending, until you have your personality down pat and don’t have to pretend any more.