10 Proven Signs That Someone Actually Likes You: Based on Psychology
These signs are majorly based on human psychology so they can be applied on the majority of people, if not all.
Shruti 🦋
Shruti 🦋
Feb 21 · 7 min read
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Someone has recently caught your eyes. Your oxytocin level (also known as the love hormone) is rising and so are your feelings towards them. Your heart tells you to confess your feelings as soon as possible but the brain pushes this thought in the other direction.
You don’t want to get rejected by being straight forward and asking them if they feel the same for you is totally out of question.
You are confused. What should be your next step? Take the risk or let this person go, even though there’s a good chance that they might feel the same way about you.
Well, I say you should take the risk. You must have already heard the saying — Nothing good comes out without taking the risk, right? But taking the risk without good risk management is the work of an imbecile and trust me, you don’t want to be one of those.
Just like a new business, a relationship is also a startup which requires patience, investment (in terms of time, efforts and sometimes money as well) and more than any of those, a good risk management.
What I mean to say is, You should definitely let them know about your feelings (it’s a risk) but not before analysing the situation and making sure if there’s even a slight chance that they have the same feelings for you before going all in (risk management).
To facilitate your risk management and help you with analysing the situation better, below are ten tell-tale signs to know if someone is romantically interested in you. Before beginning, you must keep in mind that humans are complicated beings and to decode the feelings of every person individually is an impossible task for me or anyone in this world.
On the other hand these signs are majorly based on human psychology so it can easily be applied on the majority of people, if not all. The signs are as follows :
1. They are always into your personal space.
We don’t call it an attraction for no reason. When a person likes you or is attracted to you, they unintentionally will get into your personal space.
If the person you like always sits next to you, even though there always are plenty of comfortable places around or they usually finds means to come close to you in a social gathering, it’s a good sign. On the other hand, if they sit close enough for your shoulders, arms, legs or any other body part to slightly touch each other, it’s a powerful green sign.
2. They lean towards you and let no barrier come between you.
This point may also be considered as the extension of the first point. If you are surrounded by a group of people and someone is giving his utmost attention to you or in other words leaning towards you then he/she may be interested in you.
According to psychologists, it is a non-verbal sign of attraction. The other addition to this point is that people tend to remove every barrier between the person they like and themselves, these barriers may include physical things like cushions, purses or emotional barriers like communication barriers and even intangible barriers like open space between them and their partner.
3. Eye contact.
Yes, almost everybody knows prolonged eye contact is a sign of attraction. It’s no secret, If you find him/her glancing at you, again and again, it’s either a sign of attraction or there’s something on your face. Simple.
When I was researching on this topic, I found a method which most dating coaches widely recommend if you are trying to find out whether the other person is interested in you or not. It goes as following :
Catch their eyes and hold eye contact.
Scan their face for four seconds
Don’t forget to count these 4 seconds in your head.
Look away for a couple of seconds and then look back.
If they hold your gaze or even hold it for a couple of seconds and then turn away with a blush then it’s a favourable sign. On the other hand, if they broke the contact for no apparent reason, or because they got interested in something else or distracted by someone else, he/she might not return your feelings.
4. Pay attention to their eyebrows.
You must pay close attention to their eyebrows as well. If he/she lifts their eyebrows for even a couple of seconds then they’re more likely to be interested in you. This momentarily lift is called a flash.
Now, what is a flash? Well, it is an involuntary movement and a by-product of the release of Dopamine : a hormone which is released when you see someone attractive or desirable in your environment. The same hormone which is partially responsible for those butterflies in your stomach when you look at the person you like.
5 Dilated pupils.
Yes, I know this is the third point in this list which is related to the eyes. Now, what can I say, eyes are called the gateway to a person’s soul for a solid reason.
It is a psychologically proven fact that a person’s pupils can increase up to 3 sizes bigger than what they actually were when they see someone they like. This phenomenon solely takes place so that a person can see the source of their attraction more clearly.
Unfortunately, analysing someone’s pupils isn’t an easy task but we can always try. Other than that, if your certain someone happens to have light coloured eyes, the task becomes relatively easy.
6. They are Mirroring you.
People are more likely to mirror or match the behaviour of the person they like. Research shows that when people are interested in someone, they unconsciously start mimicking each other’s gestures, movements and behaviour in general.
This matched movements of body language can be a clear sign of attraction or likeness.
7. Light touches.
People often want to touch or be in close proximity of the person or even the thing they like. These light touches don’t necessarily mean that a person is interested in s***** activities with you, but can also mean that the person enjoys your company and has a liking towards you.
It is generally noticed that women usually tend to touch the arm or slightly brush the shoulder of the person they feel an attraction towards whereas men tend to express their liking by engaging in playful activities with them.
Touching may be proven as a great indicator of someone’s attraction towards you. If you lightly touch someone regularly and they don’t seem to mind it then there’s a good chance of them reciprocating your feelings. On the other hand if they abruptly pull away or flinch involuntarily, it’s a clear no sign.
8. The direction of their feet towards you.
It is one of the signs of attraction that can be revealed by reading the body language of a person. One of the strange but well known indicators of attraction is the direction in which someone’s feet are pointed towards.
It may also be called as the early signs of attraction. If you are in a group of people and even though the person you like is talking to someone else, their feet are pointed towards you, then it means that they subconsciously want to get your attention. So, it’s safe to say that the person may return your feelings back.
9. Notice their position around you.
From the perspective of psychology, if the person you like usually walks before you or in front of you then there’s a good chance that they might not be interested in you and rather care more about themselves instead of you.
While on the other hand, it is noticeable human behaviour when someone likes you or is attracted to you, they are more likely to either walk behind you or try to keep up their pace with you and walk beside you.
10. They are interested in your personal life.
Is that girl or guy that you are thinking about while reading this article interested in your personal life? Do they want to know more about your family, your backgrounds, your goods as well as your bads? If the answer is yes, then it’s a very huge green sign. They sure are interested in you.
It is in human nature to want to know as much as possible and then eventually be a part of the things that person you like keeps close to his/her heart. So, even if apart from that single person that you are focusing on currently, there’s another person who seems to be very clingy, or too much interested in your personal life, who you might even find a little irritating, there’s a good chance that they like you.
Conclusion :
Analyzing the behaviour, body language or even the eye movement of a person very properly is the key to find out if he/she is interested in you.
Ask yourself questions like, do they give you a good amount of their attention? Does their dressing style have had any changes since they have started hanging out with you? Do they sneak glances at you? Are they always around you, even at some unexpected times? Are they sweet or biased towards you (you know what I mean)?
If yes is the answer to a couple of above questions then what exactly are you waiting for?
At the end of the day, the best thing you can possibly do is listen to your heart and let them know about your feelings. Yes, even if the majority of the above mentioned points don’t seem to be in your favour, go with your gut feeling and let them know how you feel.
The last thing you want to do is blow up the chance of a good relationship. Rejection or acceptance are secondary problems, the primary one still remains regret. Trust me, getting rejected is a much better feeling than having regret. The feeling of rejection may wash off after some time but the regret keeps tingling people for a long time.
So, get up quickly. call them, set up a meeting or by any other means let them know about your feelings. Just don’t let them go. Okay? Come on, get up now.
I am glad you stuck with my article till the very end. Thank you for reading.
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