We are still living in a world where young girls are pledging away their s***** agency to their fathers, in a world where a woman has no s***** agency inside her own culture, religion or family. Where women are still making s***** choices based on the needs of their partners outside of their own desires. Where a woman’s s******** and desires are still judged and shamed. And taking it deeper still, there is this underlying misogynistic behavior, where society tends to characterize women in emotional states as “crazy.” You know, “She doesn’t know her own mind.” This is used as a way of deflecting a woman’s true expression of her feelings and desires. It’s a misuse of the term, and it’s a way of dismissing a woman’s feelings, creating distrust in a woman’s authentic experience, and point of views. And it’s a covert way of diminishing a woman’s power of her own s***** agency.
Women are more independent than ever before, making their own money and choosing to put off things like marriage and family.
My past relationship struggled for a long time due to my independence and his insecurities. I loved the person that I was with but the fact that he judged me for speaking my mind cause the relationship to be over. Dont get me wrong, I should of done things better, but my ex never opened the door for me to be truly honest about my desires and needs. I was in a relationship with my ex for a long time and the fact that I didn’t feel comfortable telling him how I felt was such a huge turn off. Its tough being in a relationship so young and the fact that he was so insecure was miserable. Our final argument was about a conversation I was having with my girlfriend about one of his friends. My friend Tiffany said that my exes’ friend Josh was cute, and she wouldn’t mind seeing what he was like (Hint Hint: S*******), I laughed and agreed, and said “sometime I think about that too. Meanwhile my ex is in the other room east-dropping on our conversation. I dont mind being questioned but I do not like to be ridiculed or disrespected for what I think. Men talk all day about females they want to have s** with, why is it disgusting or foul to be honest. I actually think its healthy to have conversation like this, I feel like it could make the relationship feel more secure, but in reality this conversation was not for him. After my friend Tiffany leaves my ex starts calling me all these names and yelling at me because of my conversation with my friend. My friends I hang with are beautiful, and I am sure a thought has come across his mind about them, and the fact I cant express my thoughts because of his insecurities was the deal breaker. Why can’t I think the same? Girl talk is not for guys.
Insecurity can drive people to do extreme things in an effort to gain or regain their confidence. Still to this day men do not think women should have their own minds. My ex use to talk so much s*** about my friend Tiffany because she always said “ I am not a relationship type of girl”, my friend just wanted causal s** and there is nothing wrong with that. I told him that she is not a hoe, some women just may want to just live it up for the time being and not complicate their lives with a relationship. Mean while his friend Matt has been with multiple people throughout the year and he is not referred to as a “hoe”.
Men need to grow up and stop thinking women dont know what they want or a women can’t think a certain way. There are women in relationships right now that think about being with other guys. We wouldn’t mind seeing what other men have (Hint Hint: S*******), we are not crazy , we are not hoes but we are human. Men’s s***** jealousy is an evolved emotional response to a real or perceived threat of a partner’s s***** infidelity. It is a functionally flexible response that serves to motivate men to engage in mate-guarding behavior designed to deter intrasexual rivals and to maintain valued relationships. This is what kills relationships, my ex felt threaten by his friend Josh. He felt like I wanted to have s** with him all the time and would ask me questions trying to compare myself to him even after the break up. Notice, if a women cheats in a relationship is the end of the world, men will bombard them with questions about the other guy. “Was he more attractive than me; “Was he better than me”, Was he bigger than me”. Nothing really has any thing to do with love, its like its a competition. Which is selfish and egotistic, men are so worried about the man that they forgot to ask if their women still loves them. Man are so worried about their egos and pride, GROW UP.
