How To Have a Simultaneous O***** With a Woman
Reaching a climax together is the height of intimacy
Matilda Swinney
Matilda Swinney
Jan 14 · 4 min read
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I closed my eyes, my hands gripped onto my boyfriend’s back and I lost all touch of reality as my o***** took over.

In the seconds before my o*****, I was blown away by the disappearance of all thoughts. Just for a few moments, I had zero worries or plans for the next day. Instead, pleasure coursed through every part of my mind.

As I climaxed, I was consumed with a blissful moment of crashing intensity, clenching and tightening throughout my body. I gasped and held on to my partner tightly. And in that exact moment, I felt his body tense and his breathing quicken too.
How on earth were we orgasming together, again, at the exact same time?

Because it had been a couple of weeks since we last had s**, which was longer than normal for us, I realised a few things, which I had taken for granted before:

We always climaxed at the same time
The s***** connection between us was mind-blowing
Having s** made me feel more relaxed about everything else in my life

It’s easy to take an intense s***** connection for granted when it becomes the norm. And in a long term relationship, there are a lot of wonderful things that can be taken for granted — cooking for each other, shared jokes, the way you both like the same TV programmes, knowing when the other needs time to themselves and when they want to talk, comfortable silences, I could go on.

The point is, intimacy sparks a lot of beautiful things and simultaneous orgasms are just one of them. And the good news is, it’s an experience which is possible for anyone who trusts and cares for each other.
Allow silence in the room

Life can feel rushed, hectic and so full of things to do, every second of every day. There’s genuinely not a minute to spare, especially if you’re working from home, have kids, pets or all of the above. So, grabbing the time for you and your partner to be alone, silent and focused on each other is rarer than you think, and so important.

For example, I thought we had been affectionate in the gaps between having s**- a handhold here, a hug there, a kiss on the cheek. But, when we actually had s**, I realised nothing else was enough. In my opinion, only s** gives you the concentrated attention and private moment you need as a couple.

Removing the background noise of busy days and constant lists of to-do jobs, allow you to fully focus on each other. By drinking in each other’s subtle movements, the way your skin goosebumps, or the way your partner responds when you touch him/her, you set the foundation for a simultaneous o*****.

You tune in to each other’s senses, allowing the space and patience needed to notice each other’s slightest of movements.
Be present

Tuning in allows other thoughts and external distractions to drift away. There’s an energy created when a person concentrates on every slight noise and movement the other person makes. And this energy allows you to truly react.

You know when to increase your movements, move to another area, stroke more lightly or enter hard. It takes concentration to stop your mind from drifting away. But, when you’re present in each sensation, simultaneous o***** is almost inevitable.
Listen to each other

The more s** you have together, the more you know. You recognise the way each other responds to pleasure (perhaps your partner gasps, wriggles or falls completely still). Ultimately, by listening to their body, you learn when your partner is about to climax.

For example, I hold my breath seconds before I’m about to o*****. This must be a huge clue for my boyfriend. As I stop moving and even breathing, my partner knows I’m not dead, but instead quite the opposite, I’m alive within the deep raptures of bliss, so he can then respond by increasing his intensity and speed to achieve his o***** at the same time.

The silence and space to listen to each other are crucial. This is why, for me, s** with someone I don’t know never works. Miss O***** will refuse to attend, and Miss Simultaneous O***** doesn’t even RSVP.

The intimacy and trust are yet to be built.

In contrast, when two people who know each other closely, continually respond to the pleasure felt and created between them, they progress on an intimate journey, which arcs into a deep and simultaneous o*****.

By taking a brief break from s**, I realise how important it is for us to put aside quality time to have s**, where we are both totally focused on each other and completely present in the moment.
Takeaway

So, to sum up, intimacy and trust are the key players in simultaneous o*****. When two people can relax into each other, forget worries from the day, and ease into a private space together, harmony is created. As they respond in unison, they reach a climax not in surprise, but in a slow and deeply intimate shared experience.
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Me: I prefer to bring a woman to multiple orgasms, one after the other, but up around 100 orgasms over a 3 hour period, when she passes out in sheer abandon, while I cuddle her from behind and when she awakens, I use a different technique to send her even higher, with even more multiple orgasms, so her skin is like a living senses organ and when I touch her ear, or her nose, or any part of her body she just orgasms more and more. I call it playing a woman’s body like a piano and I quickly discover if she is a screamer, or a groaner, when she orgasms uncontrollably for hours which, as a man, is intensely rewarding for me.