To: R: glad everything was clockwork/fine with your procedure. Father in law is coming over for a drink/”man to man” hear to heart talk this afternoon
Me: He should be more uncertain than you, so let him (and her) have their say and agree with whatever they say, while at the same time keeping your own agenda from both of these busybodies and continue after they think they have “fixed you”, doing whatever you might – but don’t get caught next time OK?
I imagine things are coming to a hear very quickly because their daughter, your wife is due home very soon and they will want to get everything tidied away, before she gets home, I would expect.
Do you think you can pretend to be the way you usually are, when she gets back and for as long as she is there, before the next trip away?
If you go with her to her parents place, pretend nothing has changed between you and if you take the line, they will follow your lead, again, because they don’t want to alienate their daughter against them and you should stick that in occasionally, like how do you think (?) would feel if she found out that you were trying to f*** up our marriage, I am sure she would drop you both like a hot potato, sort of thing, it would not hurt for you to have some leverage and blind side the them a bit.
However, if the conversation gets a bit tricky between you and them, while your wife is around, just change the subject to something else, like Trump’s 2nd impeachment, Coronavirus-Covid, lock downs, vaccine, are they going to have it, the weather for this time of the year (is it snowing over there?) 40C here most days, here t-s*** and undies tonight, warm as toast here had air-con on earlier – what your wife achieved while she was away and anything like that – sufficient to keep the conversation moving along, without any awkward silences.
Best Wishes friend, thanks for your best wishes, same to you!!
Seems like Father in Law might be trying to settle things down between her and you, like piggy in the middle of an unfortunate situation and he could be more “on your side” than you have considered.
Richard