To: you are bisexual Me/OP: agreed, no argument there. Thinking this through:
You got caught out by her parents, with you having s** with the dog.
If they were going to tell your daughter about your activities, they would have done so by now.
But they have not, because they know that they would alienate her, against them, if they did so, for ultimately destroying her marriage to you and no parent wants to lose their child, through interference, in her marriage to her husband, especially as they get older and more dependent on you both.
So they came up with this plan, to have a go at you, using your own vulnerability against you, so they could emotionally get a hold on you – there is nothing for them to gain from it, except spite, so far as I can see.
It is really clever, really. By getting you to agree to a psych, to heal your “s***** differences” and sit in on whatever you say, or admit to, they are not bound by the rules of “confidentiality” and they can build their case against you and because there are two of them, who bear witness to whatever you admit to, anything they later say, you said, is born out by the other, who bears witness of that, their ultimate goal, presumably, to prize you away from their daughter, without them getting in her firing line and her doing them instead, which is a role reversal and something they could let slip to her, without “meaning to”, or they could hold you to ransom and you would forever be at their beck and call and very much under their thumb, especially as they get older and are unable to fend for themselves.
Personally, I think you are putting a rope around your neck and hanging yourself and I feel you need to bounce this back on them and challenge them to tell their daughter and have her turn her rage on them, for putting their noses into her marriage and f****** things up for both of you – what they are trying to avoid.
You have to accept you made a silly mistake, by not blocking the door, or denying anyone access while you were doing, whatever you did and you got caught out.
Now you have to accept that there is an element of risk, but your wife is going to find out sooner or later, what the range of your “s***** deviance” is and the best way to stop that is front them, as I suggested earlier, show some backbone and take your chances on which way things might go, because that is the only way out of the situation, you find yourself in.
Your wife will know something is amiss, by the way you behave when she is home with you and ultimately, she will prize the truth out of you and what then?
The more often her parents attend your counseling sessions, the deeper you dig the hole, which might eventually become the grave of you and your marriage to your wife – and if you, previous to marriage, lived locally and your family and parents are all around you, then you are much more vulnerable to how her parents “take you out” and you eventually might have to live, knowing everyone knows about you and that might come back to haunt you from a police point of view, if they find out what your s***** interests are – B********* – which is a shudder thing, to be sure.
Ultimately, in that scenario, you would probably have to move to a different State and start over, where nobody knows you and you find yourself on your own, without any family or friends support and you won’t ever be able to tell what happened to you and it takes a long time for the hurt to go away.
Been there, done that, it takes Balls to do that – I moved from England to New Zealand when I was 24 to start my life over and be who I wanted to be, outside my parents control and upbringing, which stunted my chances of ever having a relationship with a female and for me.
It worked and I have not looked back since.
R