My wife commonly has to travel for her job for up to a couple of weeks at a time. It has been less with covid travel situation but still happens every couple of months. Since my in laws and I get along they will drop by every so often and are simply good friends to me as well, they will commonly drop by while my wife is gone to check in on me and say hi, or we will tske turns hosting each other for dinner or drinks and a movie night in each others’ home. So my father in law comes over this past weekend and said he wanted to talk to me about something. He was very edgy and ask3d for a stiff drink. And to my horror, he told me that back in the fall my mother in law had dropped by unannounced, let herself in (which we have open door policies with each other’s homes), and when she had not found me in the house, had looked out the window and seen me doing engaging in a s** act with our male dog. He said that she had been shocked to see that and that they had struggled with whether to tell my wife about it, but had decided not to. He told me that their decision to not tell my wife has conditions, that I have to help and see a get counselor/therapist, and that they will basically be policing me very rigidly. I am both grateful and frightened.