To: I’m 38, my husband and I have been married for 16 years with no children.
Me: Your husband cheated and then, when you were single again, you had s** with a guy and got pregnant and now your husband wants to be back with you and try again and you agreed, but you are probably pregnant and you always wanted a kid and you don’t think it is his.
If I were you, I would say you got pregnant from the time you fucked your husband, because you were not on the pill and it is his and let him pay for its upkeep, education and so on – serve him right for cheating on you in the first place, if he had not, then you would not be where you are now.
The only problem I can see is that if the guy you fucked was Black and you are White, the kid will come out a non white color and that might be hard to explain away, sort of thing.
If you were both the same color, then no problem.
If hubby does not hold his end of the relationship up, you still have the guy who you think is the father in the background and by the sounds of it, he is from wealthy parents, so that could be a win/win for you, if he is prepared to take his kid on with you, if your husband does not want it.
Life is about options and which options are best for you.
Your husband knows he can cheat on you and you will take him back, so why won’t he cheat on you again, especially as each time he cheats on you, it will become easier for you to forgive and let him in your bed again – so he gets what he wants and you don’t.
A Leopard can’t change its spots and neither can he – I bet when you separated you stayed in the family home and he left you with it and only when you let him back in, did he regain possession of it again, so who is the loser now?