To: I have no idea what category this belongs to. I want my father to die.
Me: I am not Asian, although I always wanted a pretty one for my wife, but where I live, Asians are few and far between, usually imports from Asian Countries for old men and I did not want that for myself, nor have I ever thought it was right to take them from their environment and put them in mine – alien though it might be, for them.
You say you are old enough to be able to leave home, but if you do you think your father will Guilt-Trip you – so what?
When you live in your own home, you can do so, free of him, wherever you choose to live and the further you are away from his home, the harder it will be for him to be able to get in contact with you, especially if you don’t take messages from him on your iPhone, but contact him in your own time and on your own terms.
The first step, of any journey is always the hardest to take, but I think it is time for you to take that step and take anything (financial) that is offered to you, to help you set up your own home, away from your family, even if that is not the usual thing, for you to do.
Always look to your own needs above those around you and do what you want for yourself first and foremost and only be accountable to yourself, for the choices you make and how they turn out – good luck, live long and be prosperous.
R