To: To the kind man: Most of the guys here are sick. They aren’t sane.
Me: All the World’s a stage and all of the men and women, merely players, we have our exits and our entrances – Shakespeare.
Many a true word, sort of thing.
I started off life with 2 parents in England, who were emotionally and physically destructive of me, so that I was unable to talk to girls, or make friends and for at least a small part of my life, I have previously been a loner – successful at work, but unable to form relationships.
I moved to New Zealand where nobody knew me and I could cast myself in whoever I wanted to be and in hindsight, it was a bit drastic, but it worked and I learned to be who I never had the courage to be, in England.
The truth of the matter is that nobody has to be whoever they are now.
All me, you and they, have to do, is change the image they put out, to be nicer people and leave the social scene they have and go anywhere where nobody knows them and pretend to be who they most want to be and everyone who they come into contact with, will see them as they wish to be seen, in their “new image” and after a while, the pretending becomes fact and we can continue in that new way and being who we are and seen to be as we are and wish to be seen and forever.
I have had 10 major lifestyle changes in my life, as above and I am on my best one yet.
The people to whom you refer have lifestyle issues, which they need to individually address, as I have suggested here and unfortunately “we” cannot help them become better people, as long as they don’t want to make that necessary change themselves, for whatever reason.
I have some wishes that I had handled some girlfriends from my time in New Zealand differently, but it is like times past, you can’t change what has gone before, you can only change what you do today and in the future and my reasons for not being able to handle myself when I was in New Zealand was I was too immature and did not know how to express myself as well as I do now.
I left New Zealand many years ago to move on with my life and I have never returned to England since, but found my Valhalla, where I will spend my remaining years with the female company I most wanted (well pretty much, but nothing is ever perfect) and I would wish the same for all those who read my blurb here.
I have lived a really good life, hard, but I have been fair throughout and I really don’t have anything that I do a guilt trip on, so I expect that as lifetimes go, I have done rather well with mine and I would wish the same for all of you, when you look back in retrospect to discover, if you, like me, feels overall good about themselves and their lives thus far and perhaps make slight improvements to their lives, where they think they might have fallen short.
We only have one life. There are no second chances and when we die, that is it, all over Red Rover and we won’t be coming back again, bearing in mind, with the state of the World the way it is now, I’m not sure I would want to.
R