To: International student here. Got accepted into one of the colleges in California.
Me: Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
You have qualified in your field, so theoretically you can get work in America, if you can get an entry permit and stay there for a reasonable amount of time.
If you arranged accommodation near where she lives and found suitable work to support yourself and be independent from her, if it does not work out for whatever reason, you are still in America and self supporting and perhaps you can find another American female more to your taste.
Last piece of advice: Like mother like daughter, like father like son.
Have a look at her mother and see if you like her and could live with her when you both get older. If the answer is NO!!, then this female is not the right one for you, because as she gets older, she will behave just like her mum does and you don’t want to be stuck with that, do you.