Treat em mean keep em keen really does work.
It’s unfortunate that for many women and men just being yourself really doesn’t cut it. It doesn’t pay to be honest and wear your heart on your sleeve.
The so called “game” of acting aloof and uninterested or even a downright asshole or bitch often works.
I didn’t find this out by behaving this way on purpose. I was the nice one. Wore my heart on my sleeve. And I’d get treated like crap. So I get fed up and then keep to myself and suddenly they’re interested in me yet when I was eager and kind this same person would treat me like low priority.
It really would be nice to find someone like minded who is happy with being open with feelings and cuddling making out having sex all day.
It’s tiring to be wanted when I‘ve lost interest and gotten fed up. Yet when. I’m available I’m unwanted. And it’s not different people it’s the same person.
Multiple people report experiencing this and this is why some guys and girls will act aloof and cold. Because it actually does work. Maybe not on YOU but on a decent amount of guys and girls pulling back and treating them like low priority and acting like you aren’t excited about them actually works.
Tl;dr is it so bad to just want some cuddling and sex without all the extra bullshit? I wish I can just flat out say exactly what I want without having to do this dance.
