This family secret is consuming me. I come from a privileged, yet dysfunctional family. My mother lost custody to my dad after a suicide attempt in front of me when I was only 2. I obviously don’t remember and my father is one of the most balanced and loving people I know.
The problem is, I feel so ashamed that I haven’t told a single friend the real story. I’ve had a stepmom forever and I’ve always referred to her as my “mom”. If people asked, I would act evasive. But I want to tell the truth, because I feel like it drives me away from the people I care about. I consider it such a big secret, that not telling it keeps my friendships superficial.
I’m terrified my friends will get mad that I have been lying for such a long time (I’m 22) instead of understanding my reasons.
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Your in a position right now to see who your real friends are
Do you think a real friend would understand and not judge? It’s honestly terrifying. Thanks for your answer 🙂
I would say so, anyone who is truly your friend loves you as such and really cares about you.
Why bother at all.
you were 2 years old and can’t remember your real mum.
You love your step mum, who brought you up.
Keep your secrets and only tell your prospective husband, so there are no secrets between you from the get go.
I don’t get why your friends would be bothered as you know get angry or be disappointed that you didn’t tell them. I know that many believe that you should tell everything to your best friend but some stuff are very personal and it is difficult to discuss them with other people even if they are your close friends. If I was in their position I wouldn’t be angry or disappointed that you didn’t tell me. (sorry If I made any mistakes english is not my native language)