To: @thoughts on online dating: Me: I’m male and white, although colour does not bother me. If you want to live alone and never have a relationship of any sort, then you also have to be sure that when you emerge, you don’t walk into the road before checking if it is clear of traffic or not. Life is a gamble from the get go and there are no guarantees of a long life. Few make it and I m happy to report that so far, I’m getting to be an oldie and have a relationship with my opposite s**, without worrying about ways I might die, meantime. I met my partner on online dating, 5 years ago and we have been happy together, ever since. My criteria, as a man, were very low. I had a simple test I put all of the women I met through. Body shape and if hers was acceptable to me (well no, not this time) I took her out for drinks in my little car – not the sort of car a woman wants to be seen in (no problem there) We sat alone and I talked with her. She was not distracted by the people around us, did not look away, once. She was easy and interesting to talk to and had a good spectrum of interesting things to talk about (she had lived her life, differently from mine, but fully) and when we left, I opened the passenger door for her to get in and while I walked around the back of my car to get in on the drivers side, I watched to see if she reached over and unlocked my door (she did) and she passed my test with flying colours and within 2 days I asked her to move in and live with me in my home for the rest of our lives, which it took her 3 months to get her head around, before she agreed. If she had failed any of my other tests, with the exception of being Obese where I wanted a skinny woman (skinny, very few and far between, here), then she would not have been with me now. Other women I tested, failed my test and that was that for them.
I charge her rent plus expenses to live with me in my home. If she leaves, or we break up, because she is renting a room from me, she has no legal right to my home, assets, or cash, unlike if you are married or living together, without any previous arrangement, when she would be entitled to up to 50% of everything whenever she moved out (men or women. same procedure, they don’t like it, then pass)
Back to online dating. If someone wants you dead, you don’t have to worry about getting got at, on online dating, it can happen to you at any time and anywhere, without you even knowing what hit you. With DNA, CCTV, iPhone tracking via Cell Phone towers and lots of other advanced technology, it is getting harder and harder to do just about anything illegal, without being caught and done for it. Yes, there is always a very small element that wish death or whatever on others, but the reasons you get to read about it, is because of the above advanced technology being so good, that the killers get caught easily enough, which is why you read about it afterwards, whereas before DNA, CCTV and so on, it was a lot harder to catch random killers and with DNA, they can now make a picture (like a photo) of what you look like, from your DNA strands and by the free social gene pool, without needing even your DNA to find a match, so they don’t need a camera photo to recognise you and catch you, if you leave any DNA behind, even a skin cell or a hair. So is online dating safe? It as as safe as it’s always been and probably a lot safer than that. The percentage of crimes related to online dating are declining, especially with first d********, if you report it with his fresh DNA in you – it’s a foregone conclusion he will get caught, sooner or later and punished. Having said that, you can’t protect yourself totally wherever you are, in the home or out of it, any more than you can be sure the person, of whatever s** you meet, through online dating, is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with, but if you don’t put yourself out there and try and make that connection, then you won’t ever, have a life and the reasons why you were born will cease to ever eventuate and how could you or anyone be happy about that? My advice. Put your worries behind you and get out there and date and don’t wait to be asked out, irrespective of your s***** expectations, or s**, if you want to date someone, ask them, or ask for their telephone number and follow up with a chat soon afterwards and see where that takes you. If you don’t advertise, then nobody will know what you secretly want and they won’t beat a path to your door, because they, like me, don’t know what you want, if you don’t tell or ask us and if at first you don’t succeed, try and try again, until you do!! in all things………
Best Wishes…………………….
