To: I wanted to move out from my parents house for work-life balance but there is too much on the line for it. Me: Are you a Muslim by any chance, or a female. They sure have you by the short and curlies and you are another slave, made to order. Things are not going to get any easier, or better, as they get older and expect you to look after them, when they become too old to look after themselves on the promise you will get everything when they die – but will you?
I was 65 before my mother died at 92 and I had to force her to give me my inheritance.
The alternative is to remain a slave to your parents wishes and put up with it and shut up, as you appear to have been trained to do.
Your parents had s** to create you. Their responsibility to you, was to clothe, feed and educate you, until you are old enough to leave home and move onwards with your life, doing whatever you want to do, in it.
You did not get the pleasure of the s** act they enjoyed together which created you and you have no responsibility to them, because of that.
The other thing you could try, is to learn to say NO!!. Demand a decent wage from them – and – tell them to buy you a home, so that you can live your life by yourself, after all, the business and the work you have done, will all be yours one day, so you want a bit of it now, for yourself and a token from them of their goodwill and make sure they sign over the deeds of the home to you, so they can’t hold that over your head, either – or you will leave and you are not kidding.
If they refuse to increase your wage, or buy a home or change the ways things are now, then the best thing you can do is to take the time to find another job which pays a decent wage, when your everyday “plenty of time” occurs, but don’t say anything about it to them and then start your new job, move out and get on with your life unhindered by them and whatever hooks they might pull to get you back into the fold, with them and under their control again.
If they whine and b****, tell them you gave them the choice of doing right by you and they have not given you a token of goodwill, so there really is no point in you sticking around, when you don’t have any foreseeable future staying with them, and so far as you are concerned, they blew it – so on their heads be it. When they pay peanuts, they get monkey’s and you are fed up being their monkey.
Best Wishes…………..
