I dislike my step son. My life would be much easier and my family much happier without him. His attitude and disrespect make me feel angry all of the time. He causes everyone so much stress. I don’t feel any love,connection,or bond to him like I do with my biological children. Sometimes I wish his mother would take him and move out of state, even though I know she is the reason he behaves the way that he does.
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Why don’t you intervene on his behalf? If his mother is causing his behavior, why don’t you take your stepson out for a day of fun? Do what he wants to do…fishing, biking, going to a carnival, etc. Why don’t you get to know him while no one else is around? Ask him what’s on his mind? In life, I have learned if a child misbehaves there is likely a cause- they’re stressed, they are being put down or ignored. Does anyone in the family make fun of him or berate him? Do something just for him that mzkes him feel special or proud about himself. You have an opportunity to perhaps guide this young man and make his life better. Maybe you are, unconciously, making him feel like a second class citizen to your own children? I.e. do you treat your own children better than him? Try to get to know him, praise him when he deserves it, encourage him. He’s probably been through a lot and maybe he feels you just want to abandon him too. Maybe he’s been abandoned or shown he’s not wanted (I wish she would take him out of state, etc.). I bet if you truly invest in him, show him he’s loved unconditionally, and show him he’s safe from abandonment ( maybe that is why he acts out- he’s afraid to love anyone for fear they will leave him), and his behavior would improve. Love him and be a father figure to him, treat him just like you would a biological child, never call him names or put him down. He needs someone right now. Be the difference in his life.
I am his step mother and he is 2. He will yell NO at me if I so much as glance at him regardless of all of the things I do for him. I try to play with him and do fun things with him but he has hit and pushed me and glares at me often. I treat him no different than my own children and that is part of the ‘issue’. When he has visitation with his mother he is an only child and allowed to do everything he wants with no discipline or consequences and throws end of the world tantrums at my house when he gets in trouble and has to sit in time out. He is mean to me and my children and I can’t take it… He’s going to have a little sister soon and I’m so about him being mean to the baby because he is extremely jealous of any one else getting his fathers attention, so much so he has screamed at my children when his father plays with them. He is a spoiled brat toddler in my opinion :/
Maybe find a child psychologist? Is his mom physically abusing him? Maybe he should have less contact with her or none at all. Now, I know 2 year olds can completely get on your nerves, but you sound like a great mother. I think things will get better in time, a lot of adjustment has happened in his short life. Here is a suggestion for you to start bonding with him. At his bedtime, after his bath, cuddle up with him in a recliner or something as he is getting sleepy. Sing to him, read him books, rub his back. Stuff that will make him feel relaxed and safe. He will start to trust you and not see you as an enemy. Be consistent with this- it will show him how to calm down and be peaceful which is especially important with a new baby coming. Best wishes to you and your beautiful family.
Thallium or Mercury.
Think you should feed him some step daddy dick and calm his ass down. A little sodomizatiob might give him perspective on his place in your household!
put him up for adoption and then after they take him away when his mother comes home say it was just an accident, no big deal
Blaming a 2 year old? Grow the fuck up