I think I made the wrong choice. I was in a bad place for a long time as I was getting over a guy who I never even got with and just when it felt like I was getting my life back together again and was feeling happier in myself a colleague from work would not stop pestering me to go out with him. I wasn’t keen to because at that point I was satisfied that I thought I was better off alone and maybe even meant to be single. This guy would not stop pestering me though and I could see that he had honest intentions so I gave in, I gave him a chance and I gave myself a chance of some real happiness. We have been together now for over 4 years and generally get on well even though we haven’t got much in common other than our blunt opinions, we have a laugh and can be honest with one another. He has been p****** me off lately because he doesn’t contribute enough with the housework and doesn’t see sense about our pet cat who should really go to a better home and other niggling things like that. Recently I met someone at work who has shattered my idea I could not feel intensely about someone ever again and it is making me question everything, I mean, I don’t intend to get with this guy because I am a loyal person, I can gather from things he has said that what he wants in a relationship is something I could not give anyway where as my boyfriend and I, though he loves me more than I love him we are good together and we both want the same things, but it just bothers me that I can’t love him as intensely and maybe we shouldn’t be together.