IF you want something that lasts, not something to f*** and keep company with, I mean something real you want to invest your time in, you need to keep away from people who are connected or attached to someone already. Whether it’s good or bad, if there is an emotional connection. If you care, you do not want to be the next one after. No, you don’t need to be the hero or the one who is there, the shoulder, the f***, the fling, whatever.

What you need to do is back away, let s*** sort itself out naturally for her, the right way without any influence or manipulation on your part, at least. There is always manipulators and influencers, you can’t be one of those people. You need to back away and stay away, until she is split from whatever it is, a husband, boyfriend, whatever it is, she needs to be completely out of that physically and emotionally before anything can happen between you two IF you want it to last and be real. She needs to go through a few guys, chew them up, spit them out, before you even have a remote shot at anything good, and even then….

It’s the same concept of the rebound in just a regular relationship. I never want to be the rebound. into out of my way to not be. Most of the women I have known realize I think like this too. Instant them to know if they leave me, and get mixed up somewhere else, they absolutely lose me, even if they break up and want to come back. It’s done. I will pull what I said above to woman I am crazy about if she just broke up with a long time boyfriend. It f****** kills me. No contact. Stay completely away, leave her alone, let that s*** sort itself out, let her come down to earth, balance, THEN try her. I’ve done that and missed her by a month or two. I fucked up, timing was off, and I lost that gamble. She’s happier than even 4 years later.

You need to show a bit of grace no matter how much you like her. Let her go. You might win, you might lose. You definitely don’t want to be that guy though. Never pursue or simp too hard. Try too hard. Don’t get jealous, don’t act out of jealousy.

IF you want something real.