i dont know if all the responses were directed at me, but in case they were im here replying to them.
to whoever said the problem could be me: i appreciate the suggestion, but i dont think it is. at first i did but i think this person definitely has something going on and some bitterness towards me. there were things i did wrong and feel guilty about and i tried apologizing but i dont wanna risk getting involved in something potentially toxic because i have a stake in the situation too. either way i think its best to just cut contact with him. and yes i dont know if hes a sociopath for sure, only a rare part of the population is so im not stressing it too much. that story youre talking about i dont know about, so i cant really speak on it.
to the person who said he is: thats on point, it was seeing his desire to hurt me that prompted me to want to break contact. im still sad about it though but not enough to get sucked back in so to speak.
to the person who said you write just like him: im sorry you got hurt by this person youre talking about, im actually a woman and dont know what you mean im literally a stranger on the internet. please go work on your trauma, it can cause people to see things that arent there. dont listen to me, listen to a therapist about it. i wish you the best of luck <3
to the person shitting on men: thats not the way. ive been there and its just not the way. i hope you find some men to truly care about who arent the men you mightve had bad experiences with (if you did at all) bc the pain wont go away holding onto hate.
to the person who called me clingy (idk if this was directed at me?): i appreciate the sentiment, honestly was just venting about this because its affecting my mood bigtime. im no longer in contact with this person and dont plan to be. so maybe im clingy but not at the time. but i know what you mean, its not a good trait for people to have. you dont know me though.