listen girl if she’s saying not even you can change her mind, if she’s waiting through the pain even though she knows you could be moving on, if she’s working for you and putting an effort, even the little things, if she’s caring for you, then this girl is gonna go through hell for you and right back. you really have to look at these things because nothing good is going to come easily and she’s going through that right now for you. with this im understanding of you and her because i was in your position but i also have my boyfriend who worked his a** off for me and so i know how it is and you’re saying she’s done things outside the relationship too and didn’t leave you alone for a while, that girl is sticking by your side even when you don’t want it and that shows a lot, she’s a keeper even after her mistakes. if you really think she talked s*** about you while she’s doing all this then confront her because it doesn’t sound right and if you’re close with the friend who told you it could simply be something else and rumors spread. if you know she’s one to talk to a lot of people or no one at all then you’ll know if it’s true or not especially if she knows you’re the nicest person. was she ever gonna do something public for you? like to apologize and let people know or show she’s fighting for you? because that beats her putting her dignity before you. i think your happiness does come first and i believe that’s what she’s trying to do and if she hasn’t texted you by now she is probably honoring your wishes when you are ready. i just know your view very well because that was me before so im giving you an insight to another viewing that isn’t coming from your ex girlfriend as if it was for her own benefit because honestly it might not seem like it now but it could benefit you a lot more than you know. i say go for it, i say text her, because the pain isn’t gonna last that long and what you had with her and what you felt is gonna be much stronger than any new relationship. try and see that im telling you this because i have been hurt too and i know the pain and what youve gone through from what u said u deserve happiness even with her