Can a guy and a girl really remain friends? And, I’m not talking about “just friends” here. I’m talking about the best friendship between a guy and a girl without at least any one of them being attracted to the other.
Can a guy and a girl really remain friends? And, I’m not talking about “just friends” here. I’m talking about the best friendship between a guy and a girl without at least any one of them being attracted to the other.
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No, they can’t.
Impossible.
Hah, I’m actually in that situation right now
Right this moment, I have a female houseguest for a couple of days. We met when we were both 18 and became and stayed friends through the years, through both our divorces, and the deaths of our fathers. I have never had her as an overnight guest before, though. We came home after sushi last night and I lay down on the couch. She said “No, sleep in the bed with me.” I did. We didn’t touch each other all night, and I don’t think either of us wanted to, not because we are not attracted to each other, but, I don’t know, it seems better to let it be. So the answer is, yes, it is possible. Although when she got dressed in her running clothes, she was awfully cute.
That’s my point. You can’t continue your friendship, without suppressing your feelings and attraction.
Possible, not plausable
That eire of feeling will always linger, if you can live with it.great but for those who have had deep feelings and hopeful relationships gone bad, no so.
I’m sure if pressed you could cope ..but who wants to cope????
Maybe. If they’re gay or related. Honestly no. They can, certain open minded people can remain friends. It takes a certain mentality and attitude from both of you to pull it off and keep it healthy, but with most people no. Somebody or both of you at least one of you, even if they don’t breathe a word or it, or act on it, is going to be hoping, which leads to frustration, anger, resentment, and it’ll go right to hell as soon as they meet someone they don’t just want to be friends with.
You especially can’t be friends (in most cases) if you’ve already had a romantic physical relationship. Anybody wanting to still be friends after a break up is desperately clinging. It’s the sad truth.
You’re best to part and get on with lives.
Get on for your lives, or take your pain, depending on which side of tracks in dumpsville you’re on. Somebody’ll jump right back in without missing a beat, the other is in for a world of hurt for an undetermined amount of time depending how deep it was
i have female friends who i would absolutely go for if we were both single, think about it etc, but i also have self control not to act on those urges given the circumstances in both of our lives, so yes it’s possible, but a matter of self control really, and if the door ever opened for me there with any of them i might take it if circumstances are correct…..
Exactly. So, no matter what at least one of them have to manage their urges and attraction. They can’t be just friends without at least one having to deal with the “soft” corner for the other
Yes. I have a platonic male friend. We’ve known each other for 15 years now, and I swear there was never anything! We’re actually so indifferent to each other’s physicality that we’ve seen each other naked several times, and we’ve often shared a bed to spare money on holidays. We tell each other about our sentimental partners, including the sordid details. It happens, really!
Please Google the poem by Wislawa Szymborska: “Thank-You Note”, it’s about that.