There's this guy and I know we have/had huge chemistry going between us and we like each other (at least this is what he says). this has been going for a year, but this year we decided to get closer and we went out together. I think (thought) about him more than a friend maybe because I needed to feel something or emotionally attached to someone, but he first suggested that we date discretely so that no one of our classmates would notice or know a thing. I agreed as long as that doesn't mean we are only s** partner or we just for passtime. But after we slept together he changed his mind and said that it seems that we want different things and it is not working between us that way, so we just go out without being gf/bf (without being commited). then he sggested to be friends with benefits. I was shocked because this is excatly the thing I told him I don't want. When he knew that I am mad he treated me like s*** while we were still on our first date. I feltthat I just wantto be ou of there and away from this person. So I decided to cut any contact with him, yet one thing was remaining: the condom broke, and I wasn't sure what happened. So teh next day, when I was back to my senses, I called to ask whether I have to take any contraceptive pill, he said that he doesn't know what I am talking about and hung up the phone. I sent him a sms saying that he is the biggest jerk ever, and I removed him from my contacts. When I saw him at college, he acted like everything is fine. And now he is adding me to FB again. What shall I do? I am so confused, as much as I want to ignore this person and reject his invitation, I also need answers. Why did he treat me like that? Why did he mislead me? I am totally lost. He said he likes me, and that I am a better person than he is. So why did he do this to me? I was never wrong to him, but honest? Do I deserve to be treated like that? And after hurting me wthout apologizing, why would he add me again? Why are people sometimes such jerks? Is he after s** again? He wnats to mislead me again? I feel so hurt and fragile and insecure. I am afraid he will take advanatge of that… What shall I do?
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Things were good when there was no obligations. Once you started dating there was as sense of obligation to one another. Something he may never felt with you. He didnt like it but the sex was a bonus. He could have been mad at the condom issue cause with the tension that was already there he may have felt you were cornering him. What do? I dont know. The relationship will never be the same. That magic is lost. You can be friends, but what you are looking for will not surface.
i think u shud ignore.. he’s a “typical guy” after all
who is selfish and likes to play with girl’s feelings.
he does not deserve you.. you deserve a better person