my bf and i are open. we do s***** stuff with other people, have threesomes, etc. We also have a third partner. It’s great, and I love both of them dearly, and I know my bf loves us! but whenever i try to schedule some time for us to have some p******** (long distance), it feels like theres something else that came up all the time. He’s always honest about what it is, either he’s watching a movie with someone or he’s tired or hes doing something s***** w someone else. but im insecure and have abandonment issues and my brain tries to convince me this is a sign i’m always a backup plan. f*** trauma man