A few months ago, in order to spice up our s** lives, I persuaded my wife of four years to try swinging. I searched online and found an ordinary-looking couple I thought would suit us to begin with. We met, had dinner, went to a hotel, and swapped partners. I am a fit, fairly good-looking, well-endowed man. I was surprised and dismayed when the other man, who is older, and not as good looking, undressed. He was way larger than me, and for two hours I had to watch him work my wife into multiple fits, screams, and intense o*****. Since this experience (which we have not repeated), I haven’t been able to look at my wife in the same way. He was able to get my wife to do things, she wouldn’t do with me. How do you let a random guy pleasure you more than your husband?

I cannot get that night out of my mind. It’s affecting my work and ability to be happy. Sometimes I feel I could just punch my wife in the face. When we talk about the situation I ask her “Why were you so into it?”….and her response is… “He really listened to my needs and body”. What the f*** does that even mean? How does another man know what your needs are???? We’ve been married for 4 years and I have never seen you c** or f*** like that.The few friends I have confided in about this say “ possibly your wife was putting on something of a show just to yank your chain”. I don’t know what to think any more. I pay all the bills, I work long hours and all I wanted to do was spice up our s** life a bit, and she ruined it. I was even generous enough to find someone for her but she had to take it overboard, she literally forgot I was in the room. She embarrassed and humiliated me, and I cannot stand to be around her anymore, why did she have to enjoy the swap so much? Like f***! I asked her how come I never made you c** or squirt like that? …And she responded “You don’t last as long nor do you have the girth to hit certain spots consistently”. How do you tell your husband that with a straight face, she has no respect for me or my manhood. I am not a women but I know for someone to reach an intense o***** they have to want too, they have to be really into the person and this guy did not look better than me. I cannot see how I could possibly be content in my marriage ever again. Plus watching her do all this extra stuff with another guy was very uncomfortable, I feel like she cheated on me.

Women are so complicated, the same women that been in a relationship for 5 + years, will breakup or divorce their current spouse and be married or engaged to a new guy within a year. Saying he listen to my needs?? B*******, I dont think women even have needs! This is just another scheme to get more money out of men .Men have to work to provide a lifestyle for women while women waste all their money getting their hair and nails done. Everything women do is for themselves, instead of getting your hair done bi-weekly, put towards the light bill. Keeping the house clean is the least a women can do, while I am busy trying to make sure all the bills are paid on time.

All I want is an apology and assurance in the relationship, and a real explanation about that crazy experience. After 4 years you’re not going to tell me another more had the ability to make you do things you have never even thought of doing with me.