why is it sooo hard for men (and many girls) to admit to being molested in childhood. Why is it we know its wrong. (even as a child) But no one talked about it. Even now? many victims are silenced from the terror. the guilt the fear. why? I just wish I had the answers. Its really not their (the victims) fault. So why do we blame ourselves? Years of the silence from abuse can drive a person a little crazy. All the confessing means nothing. if you don’t believe in forgiveness or healing.