I just need to vent here. Not much of a confession I suppose. I have many siblings, but I have this sister who is two years younger than me. I feel that I’m constantly overshadowed by her. This isn’t her fault of course, it’s just one of my biggest insecurities. For so long I felt that I’m the forgotten one. People remember her name. People remember the things she’s accomplished. People don’t forget her. But they forget me. For a time I had separate friends from her. That was a time when I felt that people knew me. People remembered me. I wasn’t overshadowed. I was someone to those people. But eventually my sister became friends with my friends, which didn’t bother me at first. I share friends with my older sister and have never felt insecure about it. But that wasn’t the case for my younger sister. I now feel that my friends overlook me. I feel they just see me as her sister now. Not their friend. Their friend’s sister. That’s what I am. I feel that they prefer her over me. I think they only keep me around because of her. And now I feel overlooked by everyone. My family, friends, teachers. I’m simply a lesser version of my sister. I’m not as pretty. I’m not as intelligent. I’m not as funny. I’m not as sociable. I’m just her sister. But she’s her.
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Build your own life. One day when you are older you will likely discover people didn’t know how you felt. You have your own identity and life. Get some therapy if it helps.
You know what is child emotional neglect? You know what is a dysfunctional family? Read up the definition properly and the signs of both. From what you’ve written, it looks like you’re in a dysfunctional family where your parents don’t know how to properly attend to you and all your siblings, giving too much here and too little there. Your parents were most likely brought up in a similar way or are doing opposite of what they may have gone through in their own pasts. Maybe one was sheltered too much leading, your mom or dad to not make the same mistake with you kids but ends up being neglectful and the other parent, was so neglected, he or she showers a lot of attention on one or some of you siblings but ends up not having enough energy to do the same to all.
she sounds great.