My SO of a long time has some self esteem problems and I have tried so hard to help and be supportive but I am just so drained. They refuse to accept any kind of professional help, and they don’t believe me when I try to say positive things because I’m “obligated to” by nature of being their SO, and I just don’t know how to deal with this anymore. We still love each other but I just don’t understand how either of us can continue to live like this.