Interesting article I stumbled on while looking for “why would an ex who broke up with you still be trying to hurt you?”
It was at “psychopathfree” called “Why Narcissists Want To Know They Hurt You”
First few paragraphs…
One of the most common patterns among ASPD (Anti-Social Personality Disorder), NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder), and BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) is an obsessive need to know if they hurt you. Negative emotional reactions are deemed a “success”, and they especially want to know if you still want them even after they have mistreated you.
They will intentionally wave new partners or exes in your face to see if you’ll react. They invent pointless reasons to contact you, just to see if they can get a reaction out of you. If they don’t get a reaction, they continue escalating and prodding until they do.
