I have this relationship that I haven’t experienced before where this guy and I (I am a female) are very good friends. We have shared a lot about each other to one another, hold hands on occasion, passionate hugs and have shared a kiss or to. We have not ever had s** and it is something that we both are not interested in doing with each other. What I haven’t experienced before is the fact that is all he wants, affection. Nothing else and nothing more. We have shared our feelings for one another and we are ok with what we have together but it seems a bit off. It’s like we are together but not. We both like this relationship we are in and I know it’s an ego boost for both us, the tiny thrills we give each other when we touch and the intense closeness in the bear hugs we share.

In a committed relationship (which we don’t have) partners share a lot of emotions with each other whether it be about personal things or intimate thoughts. We have both done this with each other too. The information that we have shared with each other could easily get both of us in trouble with our normal daily lives.

Today he went on a date, with someone else. I said I was happy for him (though I really don’t particularly like this woman). He had told me that he was afraid to say anything to me because he didn’t know how I would feel. I thanked him for telling me and wished him a good time. Honestly I got jealous.

He also wants to keep what we have and I agreed to it, but now I think I should have told him no. Now I have a pain, not only in my heart but my conscience. I know that if I ask him to not continue with all this touchy feely stuff he will be BIG TIME hurt and will seriously fall apart. It would be devastating to him.

I know that if I continue to be the way we are with each other it’s not fair to him nor I but I also know that if I ask to call all that off (including the daily texting) I’m not sure if I would be able to deal with the hurt that I would see from him.

It’s a pain on so many levels.

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