Okay, so this is going to be a very boring confession compared to what I’ve seen on this site.
I’m in my mid 50’s, single and my boyfriend just turned 20. No p***, weird or k**** stuff here, completely on the up and up. But, because of the age difference we haven’t mingled with each other’s friend or families. Nothing sorted, we go out and date but just the two of us. He’s been really good to me, kind and very respectful. I actually think I might be falling in love with him. I know the dangers.
But, that’s not the problem. He has a wedding to go to with his family and invited me as his date. Well, that will effectively out us and I’m not sure he’s ready for the ramifications. I really care for him and want what is best for him. I am very flattered he asked me.
I have no allusions, I know what started as a lark can unintentionally hurt one of us and I’d never do anything to hurt him.
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Have you talked to him enough, made him understand that if ever he wants to out you both, a super-social situation like a wedding might be a terrible idea because it’s stressful enough as it is? And it would be even if he was straight and brought a 20something girl as his date.
It is perfectly understandable that his and your friends don’t mingle; until the moment you are perfectly sure that you’re both in love and ready to commit – which may never happen – you live much better without all the “wow, this won’t work, what is he thinking” etc. in the background. This from a woman with a penchant for younger men, so I kind of know, in part, what it feels like.
He is straight. I am a woman. I guess I should have said that. I meant “out” about the age difference. In retrospect it was a poor choice of words. And, we did talk about it.
Enjoy the young penis while it last. Keep it low profile. The social pressure will be difficult for both of you.
if youre selfish enough, just keep the relationship a secret
but if you actually love him you would let him go find someone thats better for him
i wouldnt advise coming out tho
I wouldnt worry about it. age difference is not a big deal these days