I found out my Dad was cheating on my mom. When I confronted him about it, I said, “I want to approach this from a place of love, and do what a good son would do. After lots of thought, I think I should support whatever decision you make on how to proceed.” His response was to ignore me, and then expect me to keep his lie from my mother and our whole family, throughout my sister’s wedding. After that came and went, I expected some action out of him, but then when I confronted him about it again, he disowned me and said he doesn’t want me in his life. He proceeded to sell to the rest of my family that I abandoned them, and I’m a black sheep. He dropped me like nothing to protect his lies.

I still haven’t told my mom or anyone else, despite hating him with all my heart. I could blow his whole game up by just telling her, but he’s so emotionally fragile and insecure that I seriously fear an explosion of violence if his infidelity comes to light. Either he’ll murder her or me, and/or himself. I wonder if he’s ever thought of taking me out, to protect his secret. He has it in him, he’s a complete psychopath living in his own head. I was visiting a cliff at Yosemite Park recently, and had a scary thought… I would never stand at the edge of a cliff with my father.