I lied to my husband and my community about being a virgin. I live in a judgmental community where women are expected to stay virgins until marriage night and I had s** one time before. He thinks Ive never been with anyone else and he loves the idea of having me all to himself. I even cut myself on our wedding night so there would be blood on the sheets. I feel bad about lying to him, to everyone, should I tell him he will be upset, is it worth bringing up? we are married for 3 months now.
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yo wtf. your virginity is yours to keep, and that means you’re allowed to share it with whomever you want to share it WITH. you shouldn’t really tell your husband unless he asks. actually, tell him.
If you tell him then there will be an honor killing. A murder. It will be you.
My family and his family are not like that. They will be mad and humiliated if they find out but they will not do those things. I don’t want to start our marriage with a lie so I will tell him. I hate how there is always pressure on women to be pure and not have relations befor being married everyone has a more lax attitude with their sons
he never questioned you since your first night together right? so why you so worried? just keep it to yourself. thats mean he dont know about virginity. loving someone is not just to make love okay…its from your heart. love him as much as you can and give him the best.
Don’t tell him. What good would that do? It would destroy your marriage and any trust he has in you. Everyone has at least one secret. This could be yours.