I dislike my best friend. We’ve been friends since 4th grade and honestly their humor and interests wear me down. As if they’ve shaved 5 years off from my life as of so far.
Here is the main issue: Their whole schtick/cliché is built off of overusing, misusing, and even sometimes mocking AAVE/Ebonics. They’re nearly 100% white and any POC blood in them isn’t enough to allow to them to comment on any issues regarding POC.
Although I have brought this up to them many times it’s as if my words go right through them. I am Blasian (Black and Asian) for reference, and have dealt with more racism than the average person, as my family is racist to any sorts of POC, including black people. I have internalized racism in me myself as I always imagined myself as a blonde kid with blue eyes and pale white skin. Their complete disregard to my concern on their use of AAVE makes me feel as if they’re completely ignoring my input, as they’ve also done this with any of my interests when they’re much more capable of viewing the shows/games that I like than I am.
Also how they latch onto audio trends and memes that have died months to years ago and/or I have never f****** heard of. (Ex. They’re currently obsessed with saying “Open the noor” when a door is ever f****** referenced or just slapping the word at the end of sentences making the words they use lose all meaning to me, or the overabundance of the words preppy, musty, crusty, dusty, stanky, bussin, etc. This has been occuring ever since 2020 when alot of these words first got categorized as slang into anyone who has access to the internet)
It’s so severe at least in my eyes to the point that they sound like a stereotypical gay man every time they open their f****** mouth. Actually, I retract my first statement. I don’t dislike them; I despise them.
However, this manifested hatred gets trampled every time I have to deal with them. As my brain does the best it can to pretend as if it simply isn’t there.
My issue here isn’t the fact they’re white and use AAVE because honestly, I cannot think of controversies like these for too long without wanting to blow my f****** brains out, I’m fine with that as long as you use it properly instead of misusing, overusing, and mocking black people with it.
Honestly most of my issues with this friend is due to their vocabulary, the way they talk is like squeaking and scratching to my ears. But I fear it’s starting to spread to their central being.
On the topic of vocal racism they’ve also started making “Is it because I’m white?” Jokes or anything in the like of referring to white people as a minority group. They also call me white due to the fact I often eat normal things but in a way that comes off as weird to them. (Ex. White bread with nothing on it, sometimes I eat an entire loaf.
