Am I an a****** for feeling like my husband is putting his mother in front of our child?
So my husband and I have known each other for over 10 years, done the whole friendship thing and eventually turned into dating. We just had our first child in Dec. We have a nephew who is turning 1 and we are invited to the party that isn’t a surprise since his family is close and we all usually go to family functions regardless together. This time however with a 2 month old and literally just had his first vaccines he isn’t feeling well and I am staying home to care for him not to mention my SIL doesn’t really keep the cleanest of homes and I don’t want my son exposed to the mess that is their house.
Now we do live with my MIL/FIL because we help with expenses and upgrades because my husband and I will be getting the house because his two older siblings already have homes and have expressed no interest in keeping MIL’s house.
My MIL who was so worried about our son’s health at first is now throwing that out the window for our nephew’s birthday party. Which that’s fine he is her first grandchild and she should be there but she still tries to mother and control my husband’s actions.
I asked my husband to stay home with me to help out with our son because we not only have to pack him up for work this week but do our normal chores and with a fussy baby it’s a hard a** time with one person and I love spending time with my husband.
However his mother threw a huge fit saying if he doesn’t go to this birthday party that he doesn’t love family (His Sister feels the same way) and has been guilting him for over a week for wanting to stay with us after the vaccines. I feel like our son should come first since he literally came from us and it’s just bad timing. But he caved because of his mom. I just don’t understand if I am overreacting or if it’s a legit thing I should worry about if this keeps repeating.
