i just messed up everything.
my mother calls me asking me to place my phone in a place where she can hear my father’s conversation. my parents aren’t from the u.s. so they aren’t native english speakers. my father practically yells into the phone (he speaks very loud when he’s on the phone). i decide to make grilled cheese while i’m waiting. i have some kind of receptive bilingualism, so i can understand parts of their conversation.
context: my mother is in the hospital for an infection.
so as i’m piecing together parts that i do understand, it’s clear that my father clearly doesn’t like that my mother decided to go to the hospital. he makes this very apparent, quite literally trashing on her as she’s listening. i knew this, yet decided to just allow for her to continue listening. while i was making the grilled cheese, i knew how harshly he was talking of her, yet i continued on making it, even contemplating whether or not i should just hang up. i even did a part of a chore before i just hung up.
after bringing my phone to my room, she tells me that she cannot “deal with it” anymore (in terms of their marriage). their marriage has always been rocky, and my mother has also always been dramatic. however, i’m nervous if she’s actually contemplating this with 100% thought. she told me that she would find an apartment to live in. another part, which i don’t know if i heard correctly, is that she would let the court system decide who i stay with.
i feel so disgusting, and i should’ve known to stop the call. not only have i managed to ruin my parent’s marriage, but also, assuming that she’ll actually go in with it, have ruined my sister and I’s relationship/standing, since she’ll be meeting with her approximately 30 minutes after the call in the hospital, so she’ll obviously know something is off.
further context: i am 15 and my sister is in college.