YOU cheated on your boyfriend last weekend… it was the best s** you ever had…
The rule of thumb is this:
“IF there is ANY REALISTIC chance your boyfriend might find out through other channels, you TELL HIM YOURSELF, first, to avoid the additional wound of finding out from someone else.
IF there is not a realistic chance your boyfriend might discover that you cheated through other avenues, THEN YOU NEVER TELL HIM, in order to spare him the hurt it would cause”
That means that YOU s*** it up and manage your own guilt, and with time it will slooooooowly slink away. But you do NOT directly HARM HIM (again) just to assuage your own guilty feelings.
These morons who tell you to “tell him immediately no matter what” are just selfish assholes whose only interest is their not wanting to feel AS guilty as they did when they cheated.
It is easy to separate the cheaters from the never-cheaters that way: As soon as the OTHER PERSON ceases to be your priority, then you do dumb things like cheating on them AND THEN INFORMING THEM OF YOUR CHEATING.
The never-cheaters more greatly value the emotions and soul of the betrayed partner than you (… WILL, because we both know which way you’re going on this).
These stupid fuckers who say: “but he has a RIGHT to know”
are just in it for their own, cheating selves.
Of course you’re going to take the easy way out… tell him… and have him break up with you… while deeply wounding his soul.
You can still align yourself with (what remains of) ‘common sense’…
Though in this case ‘common sense’ isn’t as COMMON as would make sense!
