I am a middle-aged wife and mom with an alcohol problem and no more energy left in me, in and out of rehab. I found out my husband who has constantly cheated on me since the beginning is involved in an online group along with his girlfriend to ruin a woman’s life and I have been unknowingly helping him. I used a family member’s charge card to do things that could be blamed on her and not traced back to him. I drink and I cannot leave him, I’m dependent on him financially, so I can’t confront him because he is such a manipulative man who will hound me and push lies onto me until I agree with him. He is usually gone or occupied with his online girlfriend who I am afraid might be looking to marry him for citizenship so he has the incentive to leave me if I put up too much of a fight and I am in survival mode. They are constantly on the phone so I do not have to be exposed to it, thank goodness.

Our Verizon records show that my husband and his girlfriend have been tormenting this other woman for two years and now I see that something he asked me to do contributed to a violent incident involving the woman who hurt herself.

I feel very bad but now I’m part of lying about this other woman who did I don’t know what. The problem is that she is depressed and has mental problems including things that would have her put on a 72 hour hold. I feel so bad because I have had a part in isolating her from her friends by agreeing to let him use my phone number and an elderly family member’s phone number to verify online accounts which I now know are used for creating names that look like hers to harass friends. This is a big deal because he has a large audience on youtube to a youtube community focused on a s** offender who was popular on television and he manages an entire forum. He pretty much spends all of his life on the phone dealing with this and talking to his girlfriend.
I feel so guilty because I am loving being away from him and his mental abuse even though he is doing it to someone who could stop talking to him and did to preserve herself, and I found out she is really mentally unwell.

I want to reach out to her but I know that me doing that will confirm what has been happening and I’ve been told not to talk to any lawyers if anyone ever comes to our home to serve us for anything. I know what that’s about after reading the texts, he only gave me al little bit of information about what I had a hand in but now I am able to piece everything together to know that I have helped torment this woman who is innocent and will probably lead to her suicide.

The only reason I would contact her is so that she doesn’t kill herself, but I don’t want to do that because then I will have to spend more time around my abusive husband who could lose his youtube channel and his girlfriend and will take it out on me and the kids.