For a while now my partner has said they wanted their fashion to look a little more scruffy and messy. I was like ok, I thought they were going for a grunge look. I was so terribly wrong. turns out they actually wanted and still want to go for an almost hobo look. Their friends literally tell them they look like a hobo. I feel bad because since they’ve change their look to this I’m not attracted to them anymore. I will still get intimate with them but, I purposely avoid looking at their had because of their bad grooming habits. Their hair is a mess sometimes to the point I question when their last shower was, even when I know they showered before coming to meet me. I subconsciously deem them filthy and I shouldn’t think that about somebody I’m supposed to love. Granted, recently we have had issues verbally starting with them panicking and questioning our relationship only to then sleepover the house of a friend who just confessed to them. They kept it hidden from me for 3 days. From appearance to emotions I feel like I’m the only one still trying in our relationship and I don’t know what to do anymore.
I wish there was still comments so I could get some unbiased advice or hear a different view point.
