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Is my spouse enabling my addiction if she keeps loads of alcohol in the house and keeps buying me drinks and making me drinks and serving me drinks at dinner and every night after work? I told her I need to quit and she just keeps making them

Same thing happens with cigarettes. She just keeps buying them for me, new lighters, cleans out ashtrays and brings me ashtrays and packs of cigarettes. She texts me if she needs me to pick up more cigarettes almost everyday and everyday I tell her please no I need to quit —and every single day she buys me more packs of cigarettes

I’ve begged her to please stop. But also most of our friends and family all drink heavily and smoke. Everyone I work with is a heavy drinker too

I’ve been struggling as an alcoholic for 14 years now.

But I cannot leave my wife. She takes such good care of me and our daughter

When I am away from her my drinking alone and chain smoking gets much much worse and I often find myself blackout drunk and getting in trouble

I can never leave her and I’m far worse off without her

But no matter how hard I beg her to please stop enabling me she refuses and she continues bringing me booze and cigarettes every day like a dog treat

And like a dog I crave them and give in

It’s killing me

How can I get clean?!

All Comments

  • Maybe you should go to a counselor with your wife? Or take her to AA? It sounds like she isn’t realising she’s hurting you.

    Anonymous January 24, 2019 1:36 pm Reply
  • She buys the shit but you use it. Stop using it. It’s on you.

    Anonymous January 24, 2019 3:45 pm Reply
  • It sounds like she is trying to murder you. If you give supply an alcoholic with enough booze to kill them you won’t go to prison because it’s their choice to pick up the bottle but at the same time you are killing anyway. It’s a loophole to get away with murder. Look after yourself.

    Anonymous January 24, 2019 3:55 pm Reply
    • But I know she loved me!

      Anonymous January 24, 2019 8:28 pm Reply
  • I’ve drank almost every day for about 30 years I also have chronic back pain and was prescribed opioids I lost my insurance a few years ago and started buying them off the street now due to the ” opioid crisis” I can’t afford them but a couple of years ago I was introduced to methaphtamine it dulls my pain gives me energy I haven’t had in years and is much much cheaper than buying oxycodone or hydrocodone and I don’t have any desire to drink alcohol unfortunately I also don’t sleep or eat for days when I smoke meth. The opioid crisis is creating a new problem meth and heroin are easier to get than the meds I have taken for 18 years I meet people everyday who use meth for the same reason. Drugs have always been around and always will be. self control is the only thing that will help us not doctors who are scared shitless to prescribe medicine to those who need it or news stations blowing shit outta proportion or politicians who are clueless making new laws. YOU have to make the decision to stop. Sorry for the rant. Good luck I’m gonna go smoke a bowl. 😁

    Anonymous January 25, 2019 8:56 am Reply

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