Since 4th grade, I have played volleyball. School leagues, summer leagues, club leagues – you name it. Well, in junior high, a few girlfriends and myself wanted to start a club league – so we got some girls from nearby towns to come down every week and practice. Well, I ended up becoming extremely close to one of the out-of-town girls, “Amanda”. We instantly clicked and discovered that we remarkably share almost the exact same interests. Through this girl, I saw a lifetime of friendship ahead of us.
I have never ever questioned my s******** – I have always been straight and I still am. But when I went to go stay at Amanda’s House one weekend, we watched Netflix, smoked, and took a Xanax. I know they say that Xanax impairs your thinking, which it most definitely does, but the first thing we thought of after we were high was fooling around. Just talking about it with her made me excited, so we went to the bedroom and she fingered me. During the process I told her to stop, (because I knew even intoxicated that it was wrong, but not because I actually wanted her to stop) but she kept on going. I returned the favor for her, and eventually she went to her mothers room and got a v******* to use on me. The whole experience was amazing, but I still find myself extremely confused.
In a sober state of mind, as I am right now, I can say that I am straight and am not attracted to Amanda, but for some reason when I heard she was dating somebody I was upset. The experience that we had wasn’t going to escalate from there, but it still registers in my brain as a pleasant memory and a special moment for us. When I thought of anyone else sharing a moment like that with her – I feel extremely jealous even though I do not want to pursue any kind of romantic relationship with her of any sort.
Bottom line is: I feel guilty. I feel guilty for doing it but the guilt persists for being jealous over Amanda. I also have a boyfriend right now, and I’ve been with him for 2 years with no indication that we’re breaking up soon. I’m 18, and this incident took place when I was 16.
