My father used to s******* molest my younger sister (I’m 32 now and she’s 30). He never laid a hand on me, though and I still have a very good, positive relationship with him. I never want to give up this relationship but recently my sister gave me an ultamatium: either I never speak to our father again or never speak to her again. I love both my father and sister so much and it’s breaking my heart to have to choose. What do I do?? I remember my father tearing up as he walked me down the aisle; I remember being there as my sister gave birth to her first child. I don’t want to miss anything in either or their lives. Should I try to get them to make up?