I lied about being s******* abused when I was a child (I actually named someone and we had years of legal battles). It took me 14 years to fully forgive myself. I actually wanted to kill myself over that lie. I think that no man will ever love me or trust me. Please, guys, tell me I’m wrong. Please write me back, anybody. I need to talk to somebody. I’m feeling depressed this evening.
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I am here man talk to me
How are you? Thanks for replying.
Are you a guy? If you are, how would you react if your wife or girlfriend told you she lied about sex abuse as a child?
It’s ok my dear, You feel like you lied but I am totally seeing different person who is confessing to me. Which was not there in first place. I think you feel guilty that shows me how much you care about that person. I saw your comment on another person’s post too which also shows how helping and better person you are . I can’t ignore you for little mistake you made and better things you did. I love you and I see better person in you always growing always blossoming.
Thank you so much for writing that to me. Happy, relief-filled tears are coming down my cheeks. Thank you for making me feel better. I have done a lot of good since I told that lie. I have grown and blossomed into, I think, a wonderful, caring person. I should be proud of who I am today. God bless you. ❤?
God bless you too
Send me any I’d or something I will talk to you or I send?
my question to you is, why would you lie about something like that?
I’m going to tell the truth now, because the truth sets you free. I masturbated and I used a foreign object and accidently injured my hymen. My doctor found out and told my mom about it, saying I may have been sexually assaulted. My mom essentially went ballistic. I think I was afraid of her because of how angry she was getting, especially when I wouldn’t tell her “who” did it to me. One day, I was going to her to tell her the truth, but before I did, I asked, “what will happen to the person that did this to me?” I’ll never forget her reply- she said that person would go to jail for a long time. Well, I wasn’t in the mood to go to jail (lol, ypu got to laugh sometimes). I thougt I would go to jail for masturbating, so I quickly blamed the neighbor ( he had a little girl whom I used to play with a lot). Years later, he actually forgave me. As did his daughter. So let this be a lesson- children take things so literlly, so be careful how you phrase things and also, never get so upset about something that your kids are afraid to tell you the truth. It feels good to let this out. Thanks for listening.
Are you a guy? Would you be understanding if I was your wife or girlfriend?
Pleae respond- it took me a lot of courage to write that to you. Please don’t ignore it.
You said it took you 14 years to forgive yourself but I don’t think you have. It sounds like you’re still suffering with regret and guilt. You were a child and you didn’t understand what you were doing. I’m glad that you told the truth though and I am glad that your neighbor forgave you. Now it’s time that you truly forgive yourself. You must pray and ask God to forgive you for your sins. Then you must tell God that you forgive yourself. After you do this let it go and never revisit this subject again. Go forward with your life and be happy.
I think I’m going to visit a priest. And talk to him, not just about this but other issues as well (in confession). It is true that I forgave myself ( and I was starting to become truly happy) after 14 years but that was almost a decade ago. What brought my guilt back up was I was diagnosed with an aggressive type of precancer this past December that could turn to cancer at anytime. I have to have surgical biopsies every 3 to 4 months. That is the catalyst that brought the past back. When you are told something like that, it makes you examine your life and its purpose. One good thing about this diagnosis: it has made me a kinder, gentler person towards others. And more forgiving. I’m glad I’m learning these life lessons before age 30. Please write back- I appreciate your advice. ?
I am so sorry! I can’t imagine what you must be going through. I’m glad that you will be talking to a priest. You may also benefit from talking to a counselor. I feel terrible about your situation. Please know that God will never put more on you than you can bear. He will bring you through this with His grace and mercy. The last thing that you need right now is stress and anxiety. I hope that you are able to devote your time and attention to getting well and letting the past go completely. Again, I am so very sorry. You are in my prayers.
Thank you for everything. Life is tough for me right now, but like you said, God will never give you more than you can handle. Once I get over this bump in the road, I will use my degree, have a career, get married, raise a family and have a happy life! One thing I have accomplished is losing weight- I think doctors said for me to lose 80 pounds, and so far I’ve lost 43- over halfway there! Determination and hard work always pay off. And, even though I may be depressed, I am determined and if anyone knows anything about me, it is that I don’t give up. And I’m determined to be happy ?. I’ll keep you in my prayers too. May be both have happiness, health, and love. Wishing you all the best. Hugs ❤