I made a huge mistake. I have been lying to my husband and family for over 20 years. First off, I am blessed with a great family husband, 20 year old son, 16 year old daughter, and 12 year old boy twins. We live in a nice neighborhood and have a gorgeous house. We are very comfortable and have always had loving relationships with each other. We are very fortunate and happy. However, my 20 year old son may not be my husband’s. I was raped by a co-worker back then and never told anyone. I don’t want to tell anyone and break up our loving family or have my son feel depressed or like he doesn’t belong. What brought this on is my daughter said she’s doing our family tree. I don’t want my secret to come out. Please help with any advice you can offer.
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Oh wow, all the love to you, this is probably so hard. I think you may have to sit down and talk to everyone. Your son will still love you even though he will be confused for a little while. If your husband truly loves you he will understand. No rape is any victims fault, I know it’s hard to tell people because even the victim feels it is. You got this! I’m rooting for you!
Same here, I’m cheering u on
You said may not be? Have you gotten a DNA tast? How do you know? You may be able to do it w\o the others knowing! Find out look it up this is a bomb you don’t want to drop if you dont have to!
You find out first.Then if need be consult your husband .alone .please don’t includE anyone else .You to will figure this out together if you tell the kids.If need be.he will be devistated, so cry with him, he might need time,give it! He will need reassurance in a lot of ways.You have come to grips with this over time.it will be a night mare instantly for him.but let him be the first to know. And then you work together, as one. It’s the best support you will have…each other.
agreed