I’m married to a wonderful guy but he committed a s** crime as a teenager. He still feels badly about it and is sometimes depressed. However, I love to manipulate his poor self esteem to get whatever I want from him. Sometimes I’ve hurt him so bad that he’s afraid to make love to me. But it’s fun for me to watch him suffer and I don’t want to be like that anymore. I want to help him build his confidencenup again so we can start a family and be happy. How will I ever make up for all the emotional wounds I inflicted on him? I know he won’t leave me, either because it would be hard if not impossible for him to find someone else. Am I too cruel? I’ve called him scum of the earth, worthless, no one could love him, a monster. I’ve physically abused him as well and he takes it because he’s afraid he’ll never have the chance to love again and despite everything, he’s always treated me with respect. How do I stoo mistreating him?