hi. i was dating a girl. i really liked her i want to say i loved her, but there was still so much to know about her. i found she was here on a tourist visa. she has a daughter too. so after our 3rd week, we are coming back from a date and she “jokingly” asked me when i was going to commit. I “jokingly” replied 1-2 years. she said no. i said ok 1 year? she said no. I said 6 months she said that wasn’t soon enough. she told me her visa expiring in early may and she wanted to get married. after that i completely felt about her differently. i felt like she lied on the dating website and her intentions were just to be a resident and not really loyal to me. i went to see an immigration attorney and they told me all the ins and outs of the process and getting married wouldnt help her because the process takes so long past her visa expiration date and not only that she could marry me, get her residency and then ditch me if she wanted (hypothetically)
I’m just angry, sad and confused. i tell my friends and family the story and they say dont do it!
my guilt is, i stopped talking to her. I blocked her number and all her texts and her profile. i feel bad, but i feel like i’m doing whats best. i feel like she lied to me and led me on, but i ghosted her too and thats not cool either. i dont know how to feel.
thanks for listening. i appreciate any feedback.