I had an affair with someone else who was also having an affair.

I was in an unhappy relationship at the time and I never thought I would cheat on my bf. Everyday my love for my bf grew more and more until I didn’t love him anymore. I was very unhappy but didn’t do anything about it until I met someone else. After that, I did the most immoral thing I could’ve — I cheated on my bf.

I broke up with him soon after. Unfortunately it doesn’t end there, my bf was so devastated that he tried to change himself in order to become more compatible with me. I made false promises that maybe if he changed himself perhaps we would get back together. He cheated on me a lot, he never complimented me, and he always put me down, however he didn’t need to be lead on to believe that we would end up together in the end. I cannot forgive myself for that. I should’ve never lied to him.

I also got involved with a man in a relationship. We were both venting about our past relationships and we noticed we had a lot in common. Things escalated quickly and we fell in love. She found out about us talking and they broke up. Soon after the breakup, he and I got more serious and made things official. We’re both much happier now. Though things between him and I were never too crazy and it was mostly just talking, I still feel a lot of guilt over putting his ex through such a thing. I shouldn’t have done that and neither should he. We are both very wrong for doing it. But how can I regret something that changed my life for the better?