if you decide to pull back with someone, they have a right to decide it’s not acceptable to them. you had your reasons for pushing away what you use to be and they have their reasons for why it’s not acceptable. you know you run the risk of losing people you push away when you’re pushing them away. don’t push them away and then go ‘oh, i lost my friend because they did such and such..’ you lost your friend because you pushed them away and they simply accepted it and said ‘okay, i guess there is nothing more for me here’. your friend is probably doing you a favor by simply following your direction and accepting being pushed away. if you’re lonely, you need to find someone you would never push away.
