ADVICE, PLEASE!
I just moved next door to a s** offender two months ago. If I would have known he owned the townhome next to mine and lives alone, I would never have bought the place. I am a single woman in her mid-30s. One day, I saw him sitting on his porch while these teens were standing in front of his house, calling him names too dirty to mention on here, and yelling at him, “Are you going to come down here and r*** us, too?” This guy was convicted of molesting his teenage daughter’s friend 3 years prior (when he was 39). One of these teens then threw a rock right into his face and he busted open bleeding.
I had had enough. I chased these teens away and went into his home to help clean up his wound. I asked him how he could just sit back and take that verbal abuse; he said he was used to it and it wasn’t going to get any better. He said he refused to call the police because those young kids do not deserve a criminal record or the trauma of being arrested…he told me they needed lessons in kindness. He lives alone, his wife and kids left him and want no contact.
As I was wiping his face, he burst into tears. Tears were pouring down his cheeks. I grabbed him into a hug on that sofa and he cried and cried for at least an hour while I just held him and rubbed his back. He told me afterwards that he had just let out three years of pain that was building up in his heart and he was so thankful I was there. He made me a homemade delicious dinner after which, I left. He asked me if I want him to ever cook for me again, he would. We both smiled at each other and I said I would think about it.
Did I actually just flirt with a s** offender? He’s supposed to be the scum of the Earth as I was taught. Yet, I loved his company over dinner. Am I a bad person for maybe wanting to take the opportunity to get to know him better? I’m so conflicted right now. What if I give him a chance and he is my Mr. Right? I’d love to have another dinner with him. I want to feel his muscular body squeezing mine in a hug again. Waht do I do, people??